Conversation is a test. Always. An exam which you can fail at any moment. The key, I find, is to get into the mindset of not really giving a shit about any of the stuff you say; just fling every thought you have into the ether and see what happens. Weighing the consequences will only weigh you down – and your chances of chatting in an entertaining fashion will sink like a stone.
‘Think before you speak’? That spells disaster for any budding conversationalist. A moment’s pause to consider the right words can turn into an awkward silence with alarming alacrity. That agonising quiet, wherein you slowly die a thousands deaths while desperately searching for anything to air, is to us what Raid is to wasps – poison to be avoided at all costs.
‘Choose your words carefully’? This is the mantra of the strong, silent type. Don’t be that type – most people just deem him a weirdo. Those of us desperate to keep the back and forth flowing, we prefer to talk loudly and incessantly. It doesn’t matter what you say – just say SOMETHING.
In the words Robert Frost, “Have nothing to say and keep on saying it”.
Solidarity, brothers & sisters…☯